Lifestyle
Dear Pastor,
I’m trusty two decades worn. I’m residing with my boyfriend at his grandmother’s home. I’m from rural Jamaica.
I came to Kingston and was residing with household, nonetheless I did no longer treasure their way of life. They notion to be me listless and so that they wanted me to hit the aspect motorway every night. My parents are miserable, nonetheless they were decent of us. One among my cousins even tried to acquire me to agree to indulge in intercourse alongside with her uncle for money and because I did no longer agree, she told me that I’d must leave.
One day I was talking to a chum and he requested me how I was doing and I told him no longer successfully. I explained the total thing to him. I also told him that I was procuring for a live-in job and if I did not acquire one, I’d must return to the country. He told me to return to the home and he would meet me there. About 8 o’clock he came and picked me up. He told me that he is residing with a woman, nonetheless if I’d agree, I might well well maybe follow him except I was in a space to get a job. I told him I was panicked, nonetheless he assured me that there was nothing to be panicked of and he wouldn’t force me to indulge in intercourse with him.
I went support to the home and took my few assets in my to find and left. It has been three months and I’m calm at this man’s home, nonetheless our relationship has changed. I truly indulge in chanced on myself loving this man. Typically I search info from of myself if right here is true treasure and I articulate yes.
Now he is telling me that he has heard from his lady friend and she is no longer coming support, so I will follow him and develop myself overjoyed while I inspect a job. I told him that I attain no longer desire him to acquire me pregnant. He previous to pull out at any time after we’ve intercourse, nonetheless I told him that I study on your column that one can calm acquire pregnant that suggests. So now we are using the condom.
The difficulty is he has a daughter who’s my age and he told me no longer to let her know that we are the linked age. Now that I’m residing at this man’s region and doing successfully, my cousins are always seeking to be good to me. They must return to where I’m residing and so that they’re always asking me for money. This man told me no longer to relief them to return to his region and I must calm no longer belief them. He’s 58 nonetheless he would not stare it. I withhold his region clear. I will no longer put collectively dinner successfully, nonetheless he is instructing me. I will fry rooster, nonetheless I will no longer put collectively dinner curry goat and a pair of of the issues that he likes.
I’m now striking on some weight, nonetheless he retains telling me that I must calm no longer acquire cumbersome. I told him that I’d desire to stir to college, nonetheless he said he has to study to belief me first. I’m no longer going to attain anything else to trigger ruption between us. I told my mother that I truly indulge in met a person and he helps me, nonetheless I did no longer account for her his age. When the time comes, this man has promised to rob me to discover my grandmother and grandfather.
E.P.
Dear E.P.,
It is unlucky that your household did no longer treat you successfully. Nonetheless you were radiant enough no longer to vary into a phase of their way of life.
Despite the reality that you simply presumably did no longer spell it out, I feel that you simply might well well maybe presumably be seeking to command that your household interact in prostitution. You were rescued by the man with whom you live and I hope that he has told you the reality and nothing nonetheless the reality. He’s presumably embarrassed because you might well well maybe presumably be grand younger than him. Essentially, you might well well maybe presumably be the linked age as his daughter and he would not desire his daughter to know because she might well well truly feel that you simply might well well maybe presumably be too young for him.
I hope that you simply are going to be in a space to acquire a job to lend a hand yourself and I also hope that this man loves you enough to lend a hand you stir to college. Attain no longer rob the man’s money and give it to your household; be radiant.
Pastor
